My Approach
Chemsex Support
My work in this area is informed by both lived and professional experience. I understand the scene, the culture, and the particular pressures that come with being a queer man navigating intimacy and belonging.
What drives chemsex is rarely just about the substances. It’s often about what sex and connection mean when you’ve grown up feeling that your desire was wrong or shameful. The scene can offer a kind of permission — but it can also reinforce the very shame it seems to dissolve.
I work best with people who have some distance from active use. If you’re currently in the thick of it, I’m happy to point you towards the right support as a first step.
Our Sesssions
What we can explore together:
Understanding the Roots of Use
Looking at what chemsex was offering you: connection, escape, permission, relief from shame. Understanding that honestly, without judgement.
Shame, Desire & Growing up Queer
Exploring how early messages about your sexuality, your body, and your worth may have shaped your relationship with sex and intimacy — and how the scene intersected with all of that.
Reclaiming Intimacy
Sitting with fears about what sex and connection might look like now, and gently exploring what intimacy means to you outside of chillouts.
Working with Underlying Wounds
Exploring how chemsex may have helped you manage difficult emotions or past trauma, and finding new ways to process those experiences.
Rebuilding Connection
Exploring what meaningful connection looks like for you, both within and beyond the scene.
Making Sense of Who you are Now
Making space to understand how, and who you want to be going forward.
Your Path, Your Recovery
Recovery isn’t one-size-fits-all. For some, it’s about abstinence; for others, harm reduction is the more workable path. There’s no single right answer here. My role is to offer a safe, confidential space to understand your experience — and to support you in finding what genuinely makes sense for you.
